Ты не слушаешь. Что мы упускаем, разучившись слушать, и как это исправить - Кейт Мёрфи

135 …создают атмосферу уверенности и компетентности – T. Bradford Bitterly, Alison Brooks, and Maurice Schweitzer, “Risky Business: When Humor Increases and Decreases Status,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 112, no. 3 (2017): 431–455, https://doi.org/10.1037/pspi0000079.

136 …являются критерием близости и надежности – E. De Koning and R. L. Weiss, “The Relational Humor Inventory: Functions of Humor in Close Relationships,” American Journal of Family Therapy 30, no. 1 (2002): 1– 18, https://doi.org/10.1080/019261802753455615.

137 …является одним из первичных признаков близости – John C. Meyer, Understanding Humor Through Communication: Why Be Funny, Anyway (Lanham, MD: Lexington Books, 2015), 81–87.

138 …пренебрежительными или пошлыми шутками – Nathan Miczo, Joshua Averbeck, and Theresa Mariani, “Affiliative and Aggressive Humor, Attachment Dimensions, and Interaction Goals,” Communication Studies 60, no. 5 (2009): 443–459, https://doi.org/10.1080/10510970903260301; Meyer, Understanding Humor Through Communication, 88–89.

Глава 10. Разговорная чуткость: что общего между Терри Гросс, диалектами и мошенниками

139 …похоже на игру в салочки комком глины – Katherine Hampsten, “How Miscommunication Happens (and How to Avoid It),” TED – Ed animation, https://ed.ted.com/lessons/how–to– avoid–miscommunication–katherine–hampsten#review. call it conversational sensitivity John A. Daly, Anita L. Vangelisti, and Suzanne M. Daughton, “The Nature and Correlates of Conversational Sensitivity,” Human Communication Research 14, no. 2 (1987): 167–202, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1468–2958. 1987. tb00126.x.

140 Психологи называют это разговорной чуткостью — Don W. Stacks and Mary Ann Murphy, “Conversational Sensitivity: Further Validation and Extension,” Communication Reports 6, no. 1 (1993): 18–24, https://doi. org/10.1080/08934219309367557. intuition, often called the sixth sense Herbert Simon, “What Is An Explanation of Behavior?,” Psychological Science 3, no. 3 (1992): 150–161, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467 – 9280.1992.tb00017.x.

141 …разговорная чуткость обостряется при обсуждении личных вопросов – Stacks and Murphy, “Conversational Sensitivity.”

142 …в английском языке насчитывается более миллиона слов – “How Many Words Are There in English?,” Merriam– Webster, https://www. merriam–webster.com/help/faq–how–many–english–words. tipping out their muck Cyril Connolly, The Unquiet Grave: A Word Cycle by Palinurus (New York: Persea Books, 2005), 93.

143 …компактное и рыхлое сочетание всего и вся – Walt Whitman, The Portable Walt Whitman, ed. Michael Warner (New York: Penguin Books, 2004), 557.

144 …десятки региональных диалектов – Bert Vaux, Harvard Dialect Survey, 2003, http://dialect.redlog.net/.

145 Слова наполнены отголосками… – “The Only Surviving Recording of Virginia Woolf,” BBC, March 28, 2016, http://www.bbc.com/culture/story/20160324–the–only–surviving–recording–of–virginia–woolf.

146 …гипотеза Сепира-Уорфа… – Konrad Koerner, “The Sapir– Whorf Hypothesis: A Preliminary History and a Bibliographical Essay,” AnthroSource, December 1992, https://doi.org/10.1525/jlin.1992.2.2.173.

147 …демонстрирует лингвистическую субъективность – Emanuel Bylund and Panos Athanasopoulos, “The Whorfian Time Warp: Representing Duration Through the Language Hourglass,” Journal of Experimental Psychology 146, no. 7 (2017): 911–916, https://doi.org/10.1037/xge0000314.

148 …люди с более развитым самосознанием… – Jennifer R. Salibury and Guo-Ming Chen. “An examination of the relationship between conversation sensitivity and listening styles,” Intercultural Communication Studies, 16, no. 1 (2007): 251–262.; Daly et al., “The Nature and Correlates of Conversational Sensitivity”; Stacks and Murphy, “Conversational Sensitivity.” self-monitoring Daly et al., “The Nature and Correlates of Conversational Sensitivity.”

149 В своей книге «Умение слушать третьим ухом» 1948 года… – Theodor Reik, Listening with the Third Ear (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1948). На русском языке не публиковалась.

150 Люди считают, что Джонсон говорил без умолку… – “Robert Caro on the Fall of New York, and Glenn Close on Complicated Characters,” New Yorker Radio Hour, WNYC, May 4, 2018, https://www.newyorker.com/podcast/the–new–yorker–radio–hour/robert–caro–on–the–fall–of–new–york–and–glenn–close–on–complicated–characters.

151 …ложь часто бывает совместной – Maria Konnikova, The Confidence Game (New York: Viking, 2016).

152 …известный аферист Мел Вайнберг – Robert D. McFadden, “Mel Weinberg, 93, the F.B.I.’s Lure in the Abscam Sting, Dies,” New York Times, June 6, 2018, https://www.nytimes.com/2018/06/06/obituaries/mel–weinberg–dead–abscam–informant.html.

153 …одного сенатора и шестерых конгрессменов, замешанных в мошеннических сделках – “ABSCAM,” FBI, https://www.fbi.gov/history/famous–cases/abscam.

154 …они продолжают надеяться, что мы ведем честную игру – Leslie Maitland, “At the Heart of the Abscam Debate,” New York Times Magazine, July 25, 1982, https://www.nytimes. com/1982/07/25/magazine/at-the-heart-of-the-abscam-debate.html.

155 …хорошо мотивированные люди обладают более четким восприятием – Sasan Baleghizadeh and Amir Hossein Rahimi, “The Relationship Among Listening Performance, Metacognitive Strategy Use and Motivation from a Self– determination Theory Perspective,” Theory and Practice in Language Studies 1, no. 1 (2011): 61–67, https://doi.org/10.4304/tpls.1.1.61–67; Jeremy Biesanz and Lauren Human, “The Cost of Forming More Accurate Impressions: Accuracy– Motivated Perceivers See the Personality of Others More Distinctively but Less Normatively Than Perceivers Without an Explicit Goal,” Psychological Science 21, no. 4 (2009): 589–594, https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797610364121; James Hilton and John Darley, “The Effects of Interaction Goals on Person Perception,” ed. Mark P. Zanna, Advances in Experimental Social Psychology 24 (1991), 235–268; Daly et al., “The Nature and Correlates of Conversational Sensitivity.”

156 …ежегодно уносят жизнь 250 000 человек в США – “Study Suggests Medical Errors Now Third Leading Cause of Death in the U.S.,” Johns Hopkins Medicine, May 3, 2016, https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/media/releases/study suggests medical _ errors now third leading cause of death in the us.

157 …важные напоминания – Laura Silvestri,“The Heuristic Value of Misunderstanding,” Civilisations, 65, no. 1 (2016), 107–126, https://www.cairn.info/revue-civilisations-2016-1-page-107.htm; Amy Lee, Rhiannon D. Williams, Marta A. Shaw, and Yiyun Jie, “First-Year Students’ Perspectives on Intercultural Learning,” Teaching in Higher Education 19, no. 5 (2014): 543–554; Lipari, Listening, Thinking, Being, 8.

158 По словам Майлза Дэвиса – Paul Maher Jr. and Michael Dorr, eds., Miles on Miles: Interviews and Encounters with Miles Davis (Chicago: Lawrence Hill Books, 2009), 70.

Глава 11. Умение слушать себя: бойкий внутренний голос

159 Мы продолжаем это делать и когда вырастаем, только мысленно – Jane Lidstone, Elizabeth Meins, and Charles Fernyhough, “Individual Differences in Children’s Private Speech: Consistency Across Tasks, Timepoints, and Contexts,” Cognitive Development 26, no. 3 (2011): 203–213, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cogdev.2011.02.002.

160 …используем те же области мозга – Alain Morin and Breanne Hamper, “Self– Reflection and the Inner Voice: Activation of the Left Inferior Frontal